Need help in changing my belief and value system
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What is wrong with your current belief system? What would you hope would be better about your life if you completed this exercise?
The only possible way I know of changing limiting beliefs is to test those beliefs.
I don't know anything about your situation but, as an example, shyness can cause limiting beliefs in people. The solution here is for the shy person to put themselves into a social situation in which they know they will feel uncomfortable but compare how the exercise turned out versus how they thought it would. The next action could range from "Tell boss why I deserve a raise" to "Ask random person what time it is" depending on severity of the shyness.
Clearly, it needs to be a next action. In the example above, there's no point of the shy person having "Ask boss for a raise" as a next action if they are not going to do it. It needs to be challenging enough to give back useful information but not so challenging that it destroys motivation. The project could be made up with a number of next actions beginning with "Say good morning to boss" and with the final outcome of organising a meeting to tell the boss some ideas for better running his/her organisation.
Lastly, careful what you wish for. I think that people sometimes try to achieve things just to prove to the world that they can, when these things conflict with their higher horizons. On the other hand, these horizons can realign with the new information learned. The only way to find out is by testing it out.
I don't know anything about your situation but, as an example, shyness can cause limiting beliefs in people. The solution here is for the shy person to put themselves into a social situation in which they know they will feel uncomfortable but compare how the exercise turned out versus how they thought it would. The next action could range from "Tell boss why I deserve a raise" to "Ask random person what time it is" depending on severity of the shyness.
Clearly, it needs to be a next action. In the example above, there's no point of the shy person having "Ask boss for a raise" as a next action if they are not going to do it. It needs to be challenging enough to give back useful information but not so challenging that it destroys motivation. The project could be made up with a number of next actions beginning with "Say good morning to boss" and with the final outcome of organising a meeting to tell the boss some ideas for better running his/her organisation.
Lastly, careful what you wish for. I think that people sometimes try to achieve things just to prove to the world that they can, when these things conflict with their higher horizons. On the other hand, these horizons can realign with the new information learned. The only way to find out is by testing it out.
If it's got your attention then you need to deal with it. If putting it on a list gets it off your mind then great. If deleting it off your list works then that's fine too. This kind of thing has a habit of coming back though because as humans we always want to grow and "improve".