Anonymous said:
I have to delurk long enough to chip in some gender observations...
andersons, I just realized I'd been assuming you were a guy for no good reason. I am female too, and it irks me that I so often find myself making stupid gender assumptions.
Also, I'd say be just as wary of giving jewelry as giving a vacuum.
Mr. ALL CAPS (is it Mr.?),
I find your generalizations about women and expensive jewelry insulting.
I don't wear jewelry and further admit that I just don't get why people find gold, diamonds, etc, valuable at all. Some people genuinely enjoy it--nothing wrong with that either, but I'd be pretty pissed with any guy who automatically assumed that expensive sparkely trinkets would win him eternal goodwill.
Perhaps I'm over-reacting. I'm all for generosity toward one's significant other, just not the women love jewelry stereotype.
As a guy "guest" I'm sorry but truth be told, the woman who doesnt like jewelry is not all that common.
Perhaps in forums like this we have more PDA totin women, for the "geek" factor of both genders is disproportionately high. No doubt a higher portion are into electronics.
Some generalizations are not bad. "Generally" doesnt mean "all" but rather "most." You are clearly an exception to the norm. Thats cool too.
My wife likes jewelery, but I did especially like when she told me to take a diamond pendant back because she wanted
a big screen TV instead.
Being the kind of guy I am was all too willing to oblige.
Let me tell you I'd much prefer if she'd ALWAYS were in the mood for electronics over expensive rocks. But usually thats not the case.
Conversely a woman might suggest season tickets to a mans favorite team as a gift.
Not all men like to watch sports, but to suggest it need not offend a man who doesnt like sports in a forum like this.
Nothing wrong with suggesting jewelry as it is perhaps the most common gift wish for many women.
Surely if she is not into jewelry, the original hubby who made the post would know better than to implement that idea. Or at least the jewelry part.
I think the principle is this,
Give your spouse, or encourage your spouse to get something that she/he wants and the less resistant they will be to your little splurges.
Suggest your spouse "go for it" when contemplating a purchase.
My wife will buy something expensive and I know I will get no grief from her about my next digital toy.
The occasional mutual "splurge" is almost like gift giving, except you get exactly what you want.
Everybody wins.
