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Resistance to using my system at home

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I do not review my home lists and I need help! Why am I so resistant to using my system at home? Has anyone else experienced this and what do you do?
 
Reviewing at home

If it´s the weekly review that you are referring to, try the webinar, it totally changed the whole review thing for me!

If you mean that you don´t look at your lists when you are at home, I´d ask whether they include any fun / relaxing next actions or just things you feel you have to / should do? I read here somewhere that if your lists are not attractive to you, they are probably pushing you away. I´m not nearly as overwhelmed by long lists now that they include also personal and fun things, the sort of things I used to think I don´t need to write down because I will do them anyway or they aren´t so important.

Especially at home I felt like I deserved to rest and relax, not work on any list. Now that relaxing is also on the list, it´s more attractive for me to take a look at and both the "shoulds" and "want tos" seem to get done, at least the most important ones.

I´d also ask what kind of list manager you use? I work with a computer all day in the office so at home I sometimes don´t feel like getting to the computer to look at my lists, so it helps to print my @home list before leaving office and then just put in on the door of my fridge and keep it paper based and only update on computer during weekly review.
 
Flyer;68392 said:
If you mean that you don´t look at your lists when you are at home, I´d ask whether they include any fun / relaxing next actions or just things you feel you have to / should do? I read here somewhere that if your lists are not attractive to you, they are probably pushing you away. I´m not nearly as overwhelmed by long lists now that they include also personal and fun things, the sort of things I used to think I don´t need to write down because I will do them anyway or they aren´t so important.
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That hit's the nail on the head! I have not added the fun relaxing stuff to my home lists so since I get off workl and go home the last thing I want to do is be productive! This is great advice Flyer! thank you!
 
New Items on my @home

I just added some fun and relaxing items-
  • Lounge for 5 minutes
  • Read for 15 minutes
  • Watch instant plays on netflix
  • Practice Iaido in the backyard
  • Go in the pool
  • Go for a photo walk.

Lets see if this is motivating.
 
mmurray;68412 said:
No I'm the husband so I am the assistant :)

Michael
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Hmm. Then there're no ways out but to DO items on your list. A man should work during the day and rest when he sleeps. So put some fun items on your @Home list and DO them along with other items. You could mix them or whatever. Do not stop doing unless it's time to sleep. Then you should stop and have a proper rest to continue DOing next day.
 
igr;68431 said:
Hmm. Then there're no ways out but to DO items on your list. A man should work during the day and rest when he sleeps. So put some fun items on your @Home list and DO them along with other items. You could mix them or whatever. Do not stop doing unless it's time to sleep. Then you should stop and have a proper rest to continue DOing next day.
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wow, no rest except for sleep? I don't know if I could live like that.
 
Our body rests and re-charges only during afternoon or night sleep. So we are supposed to work, close open loops all day long. Didn't you know that? :)
 
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