shtriemel said:
It values unhealthy living.
I did not get anything at all like this from the book. I speculate, shtriemel, think that you are being triggered in this way because of things that related to your set of beliefs, life experiences, and values about what constitues healthy living.
FWIW, having met David, Kathryn, and staff--I can say that I think you would be pretty surprised if you were to meet them. Very down-to-earth, normal folks--and they were genuine, it wasn't BS. Not what I think you would expect from them given your previous posts.
shtriemel said:
Some may consider "having it all with a cherry on top" to be healthy. I don't, nor do my friends or clients.
And a lot of people agree with you. This is fine. So don't aspire to have that kind of life. No one here is requiring you to do so. Not even GTD or David Allen. One thing that occurs to me is that, because of your line of work, where you hear about people's problems for a living, you may be getting stressed out a lot, and may need to de-compress. Both of my parents as well as some friends of mine are MDs, and I know that at different times they have all needed to take a find ways to "decompress" from the stresses of their work, as diagnosing someone with cancer, telling them that they are losing their eye sight and nothing can be done, or having a patient die on the operating table are all very upsetting things that happen to them, respectively, on a regular basis.
The other thing I would note is that I think you are assuming that those of us who use GTD haven't examined our lives or priorities. I cannot speak for anyone else on this BB, but I assure you, I don't live the a pretentious or shallow life, and my life is anything but unexamined. I have no idea why you have assumed that we are all automatically mindless drones who have bought into a system that you seem to despise, and that each time someone on this list tells you that they are not a CEO type, but a single mom, or whatever, that you sweep such data under the rug.
Please, shtriemel, give us a little more credit than that. We are not dummies! What I am getting from your posts is that you think we are mindless drones, worker ants, and that we are stupid and foolish to follow this system (GTD) because it is dangerous and leads us to some false promised land that is actually very bad for us. And that unless we live our lives the way you think we ought to be living them, then we are WRONG.
Perhaps you might consider what is it about GTD, this BB, your life, or whatever that:
*causes you to be sarcastic and call other people on this board, (who are only trying to help you and don't want to fight with you--with perhaps some exceptions) drones, worker ants, and be so sarcastic as to suggest that we need to determine or NA or decide if, in trying to get a mind like water we should go and flush a toilet?
*has you feeling the need to be RIGHT regarding your continued insistence that that psychodymamic therapy (your way) is far better than CBT when another therapist who practices the same modality as you do freely admits that each therapy camp likes to insist their "Way" is better, and that the reality is that the relationship between therapist and patient seems to be more of a key factor to success than the specific modality used?
*has you keep insisting that CBT is only a short-term modality when others on this board have indicated that they have done it long term with good results?
* has you insisting that GTD is bad because it encourages us to lead an unhealthy lifestyle?
Just some food for thought--I do not suggest that you answer these questions for us here on this BB--rather I suggest that you need to answer them for yourself. The answers are more important for you than they are for us.
shtriemel said:
Again, I think there are some interesting ideas in GTD. But the problems I have with the system (which I've detailed in many of my posts) outweight the benefits so far.
Aside from your philosophical/lifestyle concerns (for lack of a better term) I haven't seen specifically what problems you are having with it? From what I have read, you haven't actually implemented yet, or at least not very much (though I may not have the correct data, I freely admit). From my own experience, I can tell you that reading the book and actually doing what is says are two very different things. I didn't start to "Get" it until I started "doing it". It was only then that I began to see the benefit. I am unsure how far along you are in the book, or with trying to implement, but what I would suggest is that you give it a shot.
I would also suggest that you consider ignoring posts from people who ask questions that you find to be ridiculous or overly simplistic, perhaps from someone whose mind isn't as bright and intelligent as yours? I have no idea if you *really* read a post about someone asking where "brush my teeth" goes on the list, and trying to figure out whether or not it was a project, but if that was true (and wasn't just you being sarcastic), then I would suggest you just show some compassion and empathy (afterall, you are a therapist) for the person's lack of trust in themselves (or insecurity, naivete/mis-reading of the book, or whatever) that they would ask a question that you consider to be too simplistic instead of making fun of them in a public forum.
If you can ignore those posts, and post some of your own PRACTICAL questions, rather than philosophical complaints, I think you would find you would probably get a lot more out of this BB. There are people here that would REALLY like to try and help you, possibly even "befriend" you, but you keep on fighting with us, insulting us. It would have been easier to just write you off as an "angry guy" and move on, but we are trying to help. Granted, you are more open now than you were a few days ago, and I am glad to see that. I hope the trend continues.
shtriemel said:
But i'm giving it another shot, so we'll see..
I am glad to hear that someone in Toronto is going to help you out w/GTD, and that you are giving it another chance, and that your "I dare you to teach me something that could be useful" approach is softening a little bit.
I hope that you know that I sincerely am trying to help, and that you don't take anything in my post as a personal attack, as that is NOT the way in which it is intended.