Gardener said:
But, again, planning doesn't have to equate to worrying.
I agree with this. Planning is quite often an enjoyable part of the process. I plan a lot and I like to keep my lists and calendar and reference material in good order. I enjoy all that. It can even become something of an indulgence to plan in more detail than necessary just for the sheer pleasure of having it really neat and tidy.
And I see nothing wrong with keeping reference notes about possible dishes to taste, possible books to read etc, even though I do not systematically keep such notes myself.
It is sometimes difficult to put one's finger on what the crucial point about something actually is. I thought I was on to something by distinguishing between obligations and pure pleasures, but that may have been a bit premature or inexact. I am not sure.
What has surprised me on these forums is the apparent concern or bewilderment that many seem to bring upon themselves by "organizing" very innocent and inconsequential activities such as enjoying books or music, stuff that I consider as pleasurable indulgences or escapes rather than duties. For me, such activities are something that I allow myself to indulge in regardless of whether they have any utility or not, and always as a result of a direct impulse either from within or from an external stimulus - "work as it shows up" as I believe DA called it. It would utterly turn me off to see things like "Dig some Coltrane", "Flirt with Anna", "Read Dostoyevsky" or "Climb a tree just for the hell of it" on my lists. I don't think I could enjoy those kinds of things "on command", and as they have no other significant utility to me I would not plan them at all. They would feel too arbitrarily chosen and would clutter up my lists. I just might allow them to "happen" to me if I had that particular impulse at a convenient time, but if they never happen to me then I would not worry about them. I am convinced that I will always have tons of other and equally pleasurable impulses to act on instead. Why would I lock myself in if I have no obligation (or significant utility)? And why would I want to "get it done"? If I truly enjoy it, chances are that I will enjoy it (or something similar) over and over again, and that I will therefore also have such impulses over and over again (until I am "saturated").
But please do not get me wrong. I am not saying that someone who likes to make a plan of what novels or music they are going to "get done" this year are doing anything wrong. If they enjoy reading the books and also enjoy doing the planning of it, perhaps even in tremendous detail, and perhaps also enjoy the sense of progress of having "done" a larger and larger portion of the world's music and literature, then all of this is part of the fun that these people deserve. I have no objection. I was surprised, that's all, that so many seem to be making a "science" of it.
Related to this, but a slightly different topic:
I can read a novel in at least two entirely different ways. If I read it just for pleasure I tend to immerse myself emotionally in the scenario that unfolds. If the book is good I will naturally connect and empathize with the characters, will feel their joys and fears, smell the environment etc, almost "live" the story. But I will not necessarily be very good at explaining to anyone else what made this book good or different, or how this was achieved. But if I read a novel as an obligation, on the other hand, say as a part of a foreign language course or in order to help my children make a presentation/review for school, then I will do it quite differently. It will be on my list; I will read it much faster; I will temper any emotional connection that may arise; I will observe the setting and message of the book and identify any allusions to contemporary events, debates or political developments; I will try to determine what is fact and what is fiction; I will observe what structural and linguistic ploys the author has made use of, such as a framework story, parallel stories that converge, chronological jumps, omissions and red herrings in the story, key events and factors that affected direction of the story, first person / third person, short/long sentences, written/spoken language, degree of reliance on adjectives and environmental observations versus a more "hard-boiled" writing style, etc etc etc. A very different thing. It can still be a great pleasure - I take pleasure in most of my work and obligations - but if I do it purely for pleasure then I will totally let go of all ulterior aims and just "experience" it.